The Other Woman

I was the other woman once . . . and just may be once again.

It was quite the interesting lesson. For those who don't know about the affair I had with José, who turned out to be as married as they get, let me fill you in:

I was working at the Westin as a housekeeper. That is where José and I met. It started out innocent. Waving to each other 10 times a day. Then one day, the day before he was supposed to leave, that's when it happened.

I was sitting in the cafeteria and saw him walk by and waved to him. He did the same. I told myself "Go ahead and get his name. What could it hurt?"

Instead he did EXACTLY what I had in my thoughts to do. He came over, introduced myself and immediately when we held hands (we didn't shake, just held) I had felt this bolt of electricity go through me and I felt an immediate connection.

Whether it was because he knew how to play the game, just an intense attraction or because he was Pisces and I'm a Cappy, I don't know. All I know is that there was a connection.

We talked. I remember his opening line and laugh now, kind of feel sorry for the schmuck lol. He asked me, pointing to the water bottle on the table I was sitting at "Is that water for me?" His accent was broken English and I remember telling him "You can have some if you like. Just grab a cup over there, put some ice in it and I can give you some."

He didn't have a CLUE what the heck I was saying.

We talked some more and then that was that. As he walked out I memorized the back of his shirt.

I ended up calling up the company to where he worked and left a message for him to call me. He called me back and I remember I jumped up in the air SO high when I heard his message on my voicemail.

He came to my work the next evening, picked me up and took me to a nice Chinese restaurant. We got along smashingly well I thought. . . He was funny too.

We dated from the end of October until about December-January. I was the other woman for about a month or so, didn't even KNOW it. I was SO naive that I couldn't put two and two together. I thought I was going to marry this guy, have kids with him, etc.

Nope. Turned out he was L-I-A-R. He wasn't 29 as he claimed, but 40 going on 41. He DID have a wife, as he told me, just like I had a husband. MY husband was in Honduras but his wife? No, she was NOT in Mexico. Never was. She was here the WHOLE time he was screwing around with me. P-I-G.

He told me he had 3 kids. Turned out he had 5 kids, two of them were right here with his wife. A 5 year old and a 6-month year old. How sad. How very sad.

He had told me everything I wanted to hear. He knew how to play the game. But eventually the "game" caught up with HIM and well, his wife found out about me. She said she wanted nothing to do with him. She and I argued on the phone a few times until she called me up to apologize -- we talked for about an hour and well, she told me that it was all HIS fault because of all the lies he told.

P-I-G. I felt bad for his wife, I really did. And his poor 5 kids. He KNEW what he was doing all along. He knew.

Shortly after he asked me to be friends with him. I told him I was seeing someone else and basically to piss off.

Do I regret this? No. It taught me a very valuable lesson, as each relationship usually does.




I wrote this blog because I listened to this recording on Earfl and well, I liked it because it shows that there are women out there that are NOT perfect and that HAVE made mistakes, just like I have and did and might continue to do, as I myself, am NOT perfect.

I am in another relationship right now. He is NOT married but does have a woman back in Mexico, I didn't have to find out the HARD way though. He came clean about it which makes me think more of him. Am I regretting continuing on with him? Not one bit. Whatever comes of this relationship, good or bad, will be another lesson. I'm not thinking any long term plans with him because I discovered that THAT is how I get more hurt; if I have thoughts of marrying the person, having kids, etc. The big whole "white picket fence" deal is what gets you into trouble lol, or at least me! :)

I encourage you to check out this recording and more at www.earfl.com! It's a great site! :)